In a healthy relationship:

  • Your partner respects you and your individuality
  • You are both open and honest
  • Your partner is not excessively jealous and does not make you feel guilty when you spend time with family and friends
  • Your partner supports you and your choices even when they disagree with you
  • Both of you have equal say and respected boundaries
  • Your partner understands that you need to spend time with friends, family, or having your own interests
  • You can communicate your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences
  • A good partner also compliments you, encourages you to achieve your goals, and does not resent your accomplishments

My partner doesn’t physically hurt me…does that mean I’m in a healthy relationship?

Just because there is no physical abuse in your relationship doesn’t mean it’s healthy. It’s not healthy if your partner:

  • Is inconsiderate, disrespectful, or distrustful
  • Tries to control what you do, who you spend your time with, or what you wear
  • Is overly jealous
  • Humiliates you on social media or in front of your friends
  • Constantly texts or calls you
  • Forces you sexually
  • Threatens to hurt themself if you say you want to break up

For more information about teens and healthy and unhealthy relationships, go to www.loveisrespect.org

The Power and Control wheel highlights aspects of an abusive relationship. In contrast, the Equality wheel highlights aspects of a healthy partnership. Which wheel do you most closely align with in your relationship?

Susan B. Anthony Project provides prevention education programming for high schoolers related to healthy relationships. To learn more, visit our Outreach & Prevention Education page.